The sting of rejection

The Sting Of Rejection


Rejection stings! Rejection is a deep-seated feeling of being unwanted, it makes us feel like we are not of any value, it makes us question the reason for our existence, it makes us ask ourselves why we do not seem to fit in, it makes us wonder why no one seems to want to be around us, it makes us feel like everything is going wrong in our lives. The sting of rejection.

A person struggling with thoughts of rejection considers themselves not worthy of anything good in this life. Those thoughts can turn into self-hatred and such a person may start developing self-destructive behaviors.

Rejection makes a person develop defense mechanisms to hide what they feel inside. Such people may become proud and arrogant, some become the loudest, some develop all sorts of addictions, some start showing off in order to get admiration and validation from other people, some become people-pleasers, some indulge in all sorts of carnal activities under the sun. The sting of rejection!

Rejection destabilizes a person and such people do not really know who they are. Any form of security in this world seems to have evaded them. Because of that, they go into the world trying to fit in and looking for validation, acceptance, and admiration. It becomes a cycle and such people seem to always have to do more and more in an effort to prove themselves.

Rejection is deep-seated and it cuts across without social, political, economic, societal class, or racial discrimination. Anyone can suffer from rejection.

Maybe your parents did not want you, maybe your family abandoned you, maybe other children in school would pick on you, bully you, and criticize you, maybe you grew up in a neighborhood where your peers used to mock you and criticize everything you said or did, maybe you have been told that you do not look good enough, maybe you have been told that you do not speak well enough according to societal standards, maybe you have been told that you do not fit into a certain societal class and such people have told you that you are not good enough to associate with them or that you are an embarrassment to them.

Maybe you do not perform well in school and you have been told that you will not amount to anything, maybe people laugh at you because of your personality and tell you that you are awkward, maybe people are always telling you that you are shy and they are always asking why you never talk and they keep asking you if you even know anything, maybe people just look at you and despise you.

Maybe you were not accepted into that school or that job or that place or that group, maybe you do not seem to have any friends and people are always running away from you, maybe people are talking behind your back and even people you trusted have betrayed you and are now gossiping about you, maybe the relationships that you have been in do not seem to work out and people just seem to be running in the opposite direction once you open your life to them, maybe that person you were in a relationship with used you and then walked away and started demeaning you in every way possible with their words and actions, maybe your marriage fell apart and now the person you had committed your life to has turned against you and they are doing everything humanly possible to try and bring you down to the ground.

Maybe people have used you, misused you, mistreated and manipulated you, abused you, taken advantage of you, treated you with utter contempt, and then they walked away as if nothing ever happened, maybe even people have asked you which world you live in! Maybe all these have happened in your life plus some more! The sting of rejection.

When nothing seems to work out, and when everyone seems to be running in the opposite direction away from us, we are left with a million questions. We face the sting of rejection. Why does life seem so unfair? Why is everyone walking away? Why does everything seem to fail? Why don’t other people like us? What is so wrong with us? Aren’t we good enough? Why do other people just seem interested in using us and then walking away? What do other people have that we don’t? Why were we abused? Why were we abandoned? Why, why, why?! Rejection causes heart-wrenching pain.

Rejection pervades every aspect of a person’s life. Rejection makes the heart become desperate. Rejection makes a person start looking for validation, acceptance, admiration, and security from other people including from the same people who have hurt us, rejection makes a person insatiable. The sting of rejection.

Rejection makes a person become an easy target for the enemy.

The enemy sees the person who does not know who they are and presents to that person something that will make them feel good about themselves or presents to them another person who just seems to pay attention to them, yet, all that is bait. There is nothing the enemy gives for free! The enemy is targeting your soul, he just wants to steal, kill, and destroy you; he presents to you temporary pleasures, temporary security, temporary validation, temporary fame, temporary money, and temporary pleasures of this world, yet all that comes at a cost. Your very soul!

Never allow rejection to paralyze you. Reject the sting of rejection. Yes people may have walked away from you, yes people may have abandoned you, yes people may have used you and mistreated you and abused you, yes people may have gossipped about you and slandered you and spread lies about you, yes all these and much more may have occurred in your life, but that is not who you are.

You are not a reject! Your worth, identity, security, value, and everything else about you do not come from people. Your identity only comes from God.

People cannot reject who God has already accepted! People do not hold that power! Confess your sins, repent and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior through faith. When you do, you become a child of God, a child of the King of kings and the Lord of lords. God becomes your Father.

But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, not of the will of the flesh, not of the will of man, but of God. John 1:12-13.

Know who you are in God. When you do, then you will not be looking up to people to give you something that only God can give. Be firmly rooted in God and you will not be looking for acceptance from people or from things of this world. As a child of God, you are priceless. Your salvation cost God His only begotten Son; that is how much God loves you.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. John 3:16-18.

Never allow other people to define who you are or put you down. Be firmly rooted in Christ Jesus.

Those who believe in the Lord Jesus are not condemned. When you know that in God, through Jesus Christ, by the power of the Holy Spirit, you are loved and accepted, then you will never again look to the world to validate you or accept you. Ask the Holy Spirit to empower you to live a victorious life and rise above the standards of this world. Let the Word of God be your standard.


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