Sexual violence of any kind is among the most devastating things that can happen to anyone. It steals a person’s sense of who they are, it robs a person their sense of worth, value, and dignity, it makes a person think of themselves as lesser-than and feel a sense of hopelessness and worthlessness, it makes a person kind of lose who they really are.
We live in an overly sensual society. There is a lot of sexual violence.
We live in a society where some people feel entitled to abuse or take advantage of others, maybe just because they are of a certain gender, or maybe as a way of feeling in control, or maybe because they feel like they have the money and the power, or maybe because they think that they are of a certain societal ‘class’ and regard themselves to be untouchable, or maybe because they feel like the other person owes them something, or maybe out of jealousy, or maybe as a way of experimenting their evil desires, or maybe to prove a point to their ‘friends’ and laugh about it, or maybe out of pure hatred, sometimes branded as “love”.
There are people who will manipulate and coerce the other person until they achieve their evil desires. It seems like today most people do not know where their boundaries begin and end. It seems like society has normalized evil, some have normalized sexual violence, and some people, with the influence of their peers, and to boost their ego and pride, feel entitled to cross boundaries that should never be crossed. It seems like there are some people who consider themselves superior to others and demand submission from others in such an ungodly way.
It seems like society has normalized the illusion that there are people who are superior to others, the society seems to have grown complacent and has failed to address things that are ailing it. It seems like some people have been conditioned into thinking that they have to be weak, that they have to keep quiet about sexual violence, or that they have to degrade themselves so that the other person can feel good about themselves, or that they have to submit themselves to people who have no good-will towards them.
We are all equal before God, we are different yet equal. No one is superior to the other person.
No person should feel entitled to suppress or demean or tear down or abuse the other person in any way.
Pride and arrogance is a destructive force. Some people will do anything to preserve their pride. They will demean the other person and tear them down just to protect their ego. There are people who never apologize, there are people who think that they are too smart and treat others as if they do not know anything or as if they are not valuable at all.
There are those who are deceived into thinking that they are in control, they are deceived into thinking that they are superior to others, they are deceived into thinking that they can get away with anything, they are deceived into thinking that their actions and words have no consequences.
Most people live in deception, the enemy has taken them captive and is using them to achieve his evil plans for mankind. Sexual violence is a way of a person exercising authority over the other person in an ungodly way. Whether it is considered “small” or “big”, any act of sexual violence is destructive to the soul of the one that it is committed against. There is really nothing ‘small’ about any kind of sexual violence or misconduct, the destruction it leaves behind cannot be put into words.
The Bible tells us to flee from sexual immorality. Do we not know that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit? The Word of God tells us that sexual sin is committed against one’s own body. Any time we open our bodies, our mind, our will, our emotions, our hearts to anyone who is not God’s best for us, we open our lives to a lot of indescribable hurt and pain. Any time we open our lives to a person or to people who should never have been in our lives, we are opening our lives to the enemy.
The enemy is always at work, looking for souls to devour, and he knows that sexual sin is a powerful destructive force, and some people do not recover from it.
The enemy knows that whenever a person unites themselves with another person outside of God’s Law, there is an ungodly tie that is created, a tie that keeps many people in bondage. Such a tie can be very powerful, it takes God’s love to break it, it takes the blood of Jesus to free us, it takes the consuming fire of the Holy Spirit to break off those chains.
The world has a perverted view of what love is. The world seems to equate sex with love. That worldly way of thinking has led to the destruction of many people’s lives. It seems like many so called relationships are sustained by sex, at times, very perverted. The world has conditioned people into thinking that without sex, then that ‘relationship’ will not survive, and that a person has to give themselves to a person who is neither their husband nor their wife, just to ‘keep’ that person.
Most people tend to take advantage of the other person during that process, they will tell them if they do not submit to their demands then the ‘relationship’ is over – and because most of us are led by fear instead of faith, we end up finding ourselves in compromising situations, we end up getting tricked and manipulated into doing or saying things that we would never have done or said.
We have become people-pleasers, we are easily deceived because we would rather have what we see now, we would rather have that someone than be on our own. We rely on other people to the extent of making gods out of people. We have become a ‘trial’ generation, everything has to be tried out first, including the so called ‘trial marriages’. What happened to waiting on the Lord? Where is our faith? Where is the fear of God? Where is our reverence for God? Do we not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the Kingdom of God?
When did we become so self-entitled? When did we lose any sense of self-control? When did we become slaves to the devil, to sin, and to the carnal nature? When did people start thinking that they have control over other people? When did people start thinking that they can force other people to submit to them? When did we become so deceived into thinking that we own other people? When did people start thinking that they are gods? When did people start thinking that they can say and do anything to the other person?
When did people start thinking that they can mistreat, demean, tear down, abuse, harass, gossip, slander, and do so much damage and say so much negative to other people and about other people? Do we not know that we reap what we sow? That temporary ego boost is not worth eternity in hell, that temporary bragging to friends about what you did or said to someone is not worth it, that temporary pleasure that is achieved by tearing the other person down is not worth it, that temporary fleshly pleasure is not worth it – temporary things of this world are not worth eternal separation from God.
Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18.
We are the temple of God, we are not our own, we belong to God. We are to take care of ourselves and of other people, and treat each other with dignity and respect and love each other with the love of God. We are brothers and sisters, we were created by God, we are to live in harmony and pursue peace with all people, as well as holiness, without which no one will see the Lord.
“Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods, but God will destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. And God both raised up the Lord and will also raise us up by His power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For ‘the two’, He says, ‘shall become one flesh’. But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” 1 Corinthians 6:13-20.
May God help us, let us not lose sight of what is important. May we come to a place of repentance, and forsake our sins, and ask Jesus Christ to set us free from the bondage of sin. We are already free, when Jesus died on the cross, it was finished, but we have to apply that truth into our lives.
We have to come to the realization that we do not have to be slaves to the flesh, or to sin, or the devil – we have victory through Jesus Christ by the power of the Holy Spirit. We belong to God. We have been washed by the blood of Jesus, we have been sanctified, we have been justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
Die to self. Crucify the flesh. Submit to God. Resist the devil.
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